First impressions

 I think first impressions are more how you view the people you are meeting, rather than how they view you. Because of the need to be consistent with how we act and are viewed, the impression that we make on someone, our mood at the time of the encounter and our outward appearance can affect how we must continue to be going forward. This may sound overly complicated, and a consistent person might not feel the need to rely on first impressions. But some people will tell you that first impressions are what matter.

On the other hand, the more scientific view would be that people get along regardless of first impressions, that cultural and group factors will influence how people mesh. I think time and the relationships to inanimate objects can impact how one integrates into a group. For example, the I believe I made an extremely negative first impression on the neighbours here where I live, but, perhaps the culture is just toxic. I think as time goes on, and as I appreciate the building more and my role in it, I should gradually become happier. Instinctively, I believe that a first impression you make on a group when you enter that group is all-important. But scientifically, I think that as time goes on, the person that you show yourself to be should determine your happiness and how those relationships progress. "Fast friends" is not always the case, and people do not always get along with one another well. I find the fabric of social interactions to be very complicated.

I have had situations, too, where I have been really happy and thankful to be joining a group, and have been met with an instant, positive first impression. When joining a group, or community, I believe that the need of the individual and general appreciation for their surroundings will impact how positively they are viewed by the people there. Also, when you're not a stranger (when you know someone who is already within the group) you are being introduced into a place whereby you have an "in" and will likely be accepted far more.

I struggle with isolation where I am at, but I take solace in knowing that situations do change and evolve over time, and as I improve my own happiness, I could find a better situation for myself eventually. I can only draw on my life experience and past experiences to process where I am and to find happiness in a situation that I perceive as difficult.