"Falling" in love

 I don't think anyone can really fall in love. I think love happens gradually over time. To fall into it implies a kind of risky recklessness that can lead to a chaos.

Growing up, we watched Disney films and there seemed to be this romantic cloud surrounding the process of "falling" in love. Perhaps it's for young people.

As I age, I want something different. There is mature love, which is a bond that is lasting between two people. I think relationships that start off as friends are the best. Better yet, friendship is the best. Romance is fine but a bond of friendship seems to imply an adjustment to the imperfections each individual.

Stability is very important. Consistency is not really possible, as relationships morph over time and people can have a tendency to grow, but a pillar of stability in a chaotic life is something to be striven for. The best relationships that I know of were formed through a shared commitment to having a life together, through a strong relationship.

I don't judge same-sex couples because they, as far I as I see, can understand this. Of course defining relationships and making these blanket statements is a kind of folly as well, as something as complex as a person does not really lend itself to generalization.