Closure

 There is a concept in human interactions called "closure". When two people get together, it is often not beneficial for either party to part ways without closing the relationship officially. Usually, when there is toxicity afoot, one party will display anger by not letting the other one leave through threat of not providing closure. When a relationship disintegrates in a toxic fashion, in the words, when there was no "goodbye", it can be assumed that the relationship had problems to begin with.

I have encountered this personally recently, whereby Aaron entered my life and became very petulant and clingy, and did not provide a proper exit from my life. I am grounded and centered now, and take care to appreciate all of my relationships, as they are pretty much carefully and purposefully chosen and maintained. There was a time when I was young and naive, and bitter, and the woman that I was involved with tried to end the relationship.

Up until recently I had been working under the assumption that it was a good, healthy relationship and that its end is what messed me up long-term (assuming that I am more messed up than ordinary). Now, I realize mildly that there were problems to begin with. When she "dumped" me, I did not provide the closure out of spite. It was attained later on her part, but for me, I held on. This was the toxic influence tow which I refer. When one party does not want the relationship to end and thus attempts to deny closure, problems ensue.

When two people are close, and the relationship simply disintegrates due to closure being withheld, the person who wanted it to end can be left in fear. I extrapolate based on my own example but this is the theory that I am inventing at this particular time.